Welcome readers to the 61st issue of Mt. Olive Online.

Holiday care packages recently gifted to close to 500 senior veterans unwrapped a blessing to dozens of local youth who were given an opportunity to volunteer and give back.

Organized by the All Veterans Memorial and All Veterans Alliance, the Holiday Blessing Boxes initiative was completed last week when close to 100 volunteers worked together to donate, collect and assemble 498 holiday packages filled with much needed items such as toiletries, lap blankets, socks and playing cards. Recipients were senior Veterans and retired firemen.

Assembly of the boxes took place at the Mt. Olive Senior Center in Budd Lake on Saturday, Dec. 19, from 8:30 a.m. until 7 p.m., just in time for delivery to those who may have been forgotten or alone during this holiday season as a result of  COVID 19 restrictions and precautions.

The pandemic has placed many seniors in isolation to protect them from the disease. It has also kept students out of school and away from other important activities such as volunteering to help others. The Blessing Boxes initiative not only brightened the Veterans’ holidays, but it gave individuals, especially students, a channel to hold onto altruism, have a purpose and utilize a good reason to just get out of the house and make a difference.

“Our outreach effort was not only to make a difference in a senior veteran’s life during the holidays – but to provide awareness and opportunity for the community,” says organizer Charlie Wood Uhrmann, founder of the AVM and AVA. 

“Seniors in care facilities are often forgotten; notwithstanding they were most affected by the pandemic,” she says.  “People are generally kind and caring – but oftentimes feel helpless.  Outreach efforts such as the Holiday Blessing Boxes not only gives people an opportunity to be proactive and supportive and caring – but instills a warm spiritual feeling.
“I am a firm believer that we must begin providing a sense of normalcy, kindness and hope to our children,” continues Uhrmann.  “For the past nine months, we have created a landscape of hopelessness and fear in our children and community at large.  Our reaction has caused an exponential spike in despondency, depression and suicide across the board.  If there is any notable reaction from this project was the expressed appreciation from not only the students who volunteered – but the sincere gratitude from each one of the parents.  Ms. Greszczak’s Gifted and Talented students were incredibly grateful and most did not want to leave.”

Project Background

Providing much needed items to Veterans during winter months and holidays is not new to the AVM and AVA.

In previous years, the AVA and Morris County American Legion have delivered thousands of severe weather backpacks, coats and blankets to homeless veterans. This year, that effort has been rechanneled to bring some comfort to veterans living in VA facilities in New Jersey.

“Times have changed,” explains Uhrmann. “COVID19 and the recent riots and random attacks creates dangerous conditions for our volunteers.  No one has suffered more than our seniors during this pandemic.  COVID19 has taken its toll on their physical and mental wellbeing.  Seniors living in care facilities have been restricted from seeing their beloved family members and friends from the outside.  Inside the facility, they have seen their beloved friends suffer and even die from the virus.  Seniors in care facilities are often forgotten.”

In a letter trying to engage volunteers to help with the project, Uhrmann writes, “Due to the Covid virus, and the lock-down restrictions, there has been an exponential rise in despondency and depression among our elderly veterans as they have watched their beloved friends pass due to the virus and are restricted from seeing their families. This year we will turn our attention to those who have been hit hard by the pandemic, those in our Veteran Care Facilities.”

This year, the recipients for the Holiday Blessing Boxes were senior veterans in state care facilities; Menlo, Veterans Haven and the firemen retirement home in Boonton, says Uhrmann.

As for the name of the initiative, Uhrmann did not have to search far.

“The name Holiday Blessing Boxes came from me,” says Uhrmann. “Not a day goes by that I am not reminded of how blessed I am.  Blessings from God are not meant to be kept to oneself,  but shared with others.  Giving to those you have not met is much like military service; our warriors protect the liberty and freedom of people they have never met.  It gives God joy to see us love each other unconditionally.”
Individual Groups Volunteer

Out of the 100 volunteers that helped in the effort to collect and assemble items for the Holiday Blessing Boxes, a good majority were students from Ann Greszczak’s Gifted & Talented classes at Mt. Olive Middle School.  

“Their parents jumped right in to help,” says Uhrmann. 

Other key players were Robert Bedell of MOHS JROTC; and General Frank Dulfer of Post #91, says Uhrmann. 

 “All went amazingly well,” says Uhrmann. “All went smoothly.”

Uhrmann had rallied her troops for the Holiday Blessing Box operation and by the time the day was done had 498 packages sealed and sanitized, ready for delivery.

The following is a list of businesses and organizations that volunteered to help with the Holiday Blessing Boxes:

All Veterans Memorial, Charlie Uhrmann donated custom eye glass cleaning cloths; All Veterans Alliance, Charlie Uhrmann donated  custom face masks / lanyards; American Legion Post #91, Amery Vasso donated lap blankets; American Legion Post #450, Dennis Porporna donated custom lip repair balms; DAR (Daughter of the American Revolution), Carrie Efinger donated holiday face masks; Education Association of Mt. Olive granted MOMS Gifted and Talented’s  Ann Greszczak copies of the book “Yorkie Doodle Dandy” and movie “Angel in the Foxhole;” Home Depot,  Edward Flynn donated custom cell phone holders; Meier Stone Company, Karl Meier donated custom hand sanitizers; Mt. Olive High School JROTC, Robert Bedell donated playing cards; New Jersey Department of Veterans Services donated custom water bottles; Walmart Hackettstown provided food for volunteers;  Walmart Flanders provided chocolate crepes; Walmart Kearney donated  eco-friendly tote bags; Walmart North Brunswick donated socks.
“There were many private donors, to which we purchased tooth brushes, tooth paste, body and hand moisturizers,” adds Uhrmann.   
With a plan to have packages in the recipients’ hands on or before December 24, “boxes were delivered immediately,” says Uhrmann. “Ann Greszczak delivered the blessing bags to the Firemen’s Retirement Home in Boonton;  Amery & Sara Vasso delivered to Menlo; Dennis Porporna delivered to Veterans Haven; Bill Robinson delivered to the other home.” 

Safety & Sanitation Protocols 

Unlike years passed with her other collection drives, Uhrmann had to limit the number of volunteers who could assemble at one time. She also required volunteers to wear masks, aprons and gloves, maintain social distancing and provide sanitized packages to the recipients.
“Each item was kept in a sterile environment,” says Uhrmann. “Most were individually wrapped. Tables were sterilized and draped with clean sterile tablecloths.  Boxes remain sealed until assembled.  Each volunteer was provided hand sanitizers and gloves before handling the items.  As the bags were completed, they were placed in airtight bags before being delivered to each facility.”

Because of safety issues, Uhrmann says “We were not allowed to enter the facilities.  We dropped the gifts off.”

Those who delivered the items did not get to see the direct response from the individuals who opened their blessing boxes, but photos taken show the content on their faces.

“The photos speak for themselves,” says Uhrmann.

Deeper Look Into The Roles Each Played

The Mt. Olive High School Air Force JROTC in Flanders collected playing cards for the Blessing Holiday Boxes.

“Our contribution to this amazing outreach by All Veterans Alliance was 435 individually wrapped decks of cards,” explains MOHS Air Force JROTC Aerospace Science Instructor Rob Bedell. “The cadets ran a Decks-for-Vets drive that garnered all the donations.” 

Bedell does not have an exact count of how many students helped with the initiative “since the cadets ran a drop box. One of our cadets, Justin Nguyen, created the Deck-for-Vets flyer and oversaw the collection. Since the school was closed due to COVID, one of our students, Jason Musal, volunteered to put the drop box out every morning at 7 a.m. and pick it back up at 4:30 p.m. for eight days straight to ensure everyone had the most convenient opportunity to donate.”

Bedell explains why the MOHS JROTC participated in this initiative. 

“As for why this outreach was so important to us, it is simply another opportunity for us to give back to fellow Americans who have given so much of themselves,” says Bedell. “This time of year is normally tough on folks who may not have any family close by to visit and spend the holidays with, but this year is exceptionally hard due to the extended isolation.

“For our cadets, it is an outreach that helps them learn the benefit of giving back and to honor those who have served to give us our freedoms,” he says. “Hopefully this "Blessing Box" brings a bit of happiness to those veterans who need that extra reminder that they are appreciated and loved.”

MOMS G&T Students

More than 40 students from the MOMS 8th grade Gifted &Talented classes participated in the Holiday Blessing Boxes, says their teacher Ann Greszczak.  They made “over 500 cards for the veterans and former firefighters,” she explains. “The cards were made and sent to me electronically.  I then forwarded them to Staples and had them printed.”

On the day of operation assemble, “over 30 students showed up to help assemble the boxes,” says Greszczak. “Some brought their siblings, some moms and dads stayed to help.  Due to COVID, this part was not a school sponsored event although I organized the sign up and was the contact person for it.

”Since their participation was done outside of school, Greszczak wrote a letter to the parents explaining the volunteer opportunity for the students and the role they could play.

“This is not a school activity but rather an opportunity for community service sponsored by the All Veterans Alliance Volunteer committee,” Greszczak wrote in her letter to parents. 

Four eighth graders at Mt. Olive Middle School have been stirring up courses since November that feed youths’ minds and the bellies of those who are hungry. Amblin Cabsaba of Budd Lake, siblings Robbie and Riley Cahili of Flanders and Thomaz Honda of Hackettstown started their own non-profit tutoring service last month. Called A.R.R.T. Of Tutoring, derived after the first initial of their first names, the friends specialize in mathematics to help students in grades one through five sharpen their skills.

The 14-year-olds came up with their idea for their student-led volunteer math tutoring program over the summer to offer extra help to other students. Instead of charging for their services, they suggest a donation to the Mt. Olive Food Pantry to help feed the hungry.

“Giving back to the community by donating to the Mt. Olive Pantry and tutoring makes us feel very proud and honored to do so,” says Riley Cahili. “Having a chance to help out those in need during this tough time can really change someone’s, even just one person’s, life for the better. We’re so thankful to be someone to give hope for someone struggling. We hope the people who we help will be able to live happier than before!”

A.R.R.T.’s Of Tutoring services officially began on Nov. 18 on Instagram, says Amblin Cabsaba.

“The idea was made around August where we decided that we wanted to offer students assistance in their studies,” says Cabsaba. “We started planning in September and October where we created a website, logo, and a booking website for students to book sessions. Dry runs started end of October.”

While teachers lead the way in providing support to students and their learning, these young teens decided they could also help fill those gaps. 

“The idea primarily came to us when we saw that despite the phenomenal efforts from teachers and parents, some kids needed to add a bit of fertilizer to help expand their knowledge,” says Thomaz Honda.

Friendships Well Made

“We all met in our 7th grade G&T class, and we have been a friend group ever since then,” adds Honda.

While mathematics is their specialty to the younger grades, they do plan to expand in their subjects as well as their age limit.

“As tutors, we all mainly specialize in mathematics, since we currently are already learning Algebra 2 in 8th grade and some of us are participating in other math programs in order to learn more. Although at the moment, we are teaching math, we do plan to teach other subjects in the future,” says Riley Cahili and Cabsaba.

“Our tutoring lessons consist of the students within grades 1-5 in mathematics,” says Robbie Cahili. “We intend, however, to gradually increase the grade level limits as we become more comfortable with tutoring,” he says, adding that “none of us had any prior tutoring experience before the A.R.R.T. Program.”

Since the program began, A.R.R.T. Of Tutoring has provided sessions to about 10 students.

“Since our website, arrttutors.bookwhen.com, is constantly active for tutoring signups, the number of students we teach at a time may vary, but we currently are tutoring two students, based upon booked lessons,” says Robbie Cahili.

Free Tutoring For Optional Food Donations

The students decided to offer their tutoring services for free. For those who are willing to donate, that is not a problem. They are accepting food items to help stock the shelves of the Mt. Olive Food Pantry.

“Our tutoring service is completely free, but students can still donate if they choose,” says Cabsaba. “Our sessions are 30 minutes long with the tutor and one student.”

Instead of charging a fee, “we encourage the people who do want to donate to give to the Mt. Olive Food Pantry,” adds Riley Cahili.

With more families unemployed and facing challenging times from the pandemic, the students saw a local need. 

“We all came to a collective agreement to donate to the MO Food Pantry because we saw that families got hit really hard by this pandemic and that food was an essential resource and a beacon of hope to those who need it the most,” explains Honda.

They made its first food donation on Saturday, Dec. 12.

“We donated only food to the MO Food Pantry, and although we didn’t get an exact count, we provided non-perishables, such as cookies, condiments, cooking oil, saltines, and soda, among others,” says Honda.

“Some of the donations were dropped off our house from a student and some from ourselves,” says Honda and Cabsaba. “We hope this will inspire others to do the same, and these items were collected a couple days before we went to the food pantry.”

After practicing law separately for more than 25 years, Douglass Sclar and his brother Bradley Sclar finally sealed the deal and formed their own law firm. Operating from offices in Roxbury and Marlton, Sclar & Sclar, LLC serves all of New Jersey.

Both alumni of Roxbury High School, Doug received his B.S. from University of Maryland and his J.D. from Seton Hall University Law School; Brad earned his B.S. from Penn State University and his J.D. from Duquesne School of Law.

Prior to their recent partnership, both worked for some of the most well- respected law firms in the state.

Sclar & Sclar, LLC have a strong reputation in construction law as well as providing clients with powerful representation in real estate (residential and commercial), municipal court defense, condominium and homeowner association law, business law, corporate and collections.

Doug cut his legal teeth clerking for Superior Court Judges Seymour Margulies, J.S.C. and Charles J. Harrington Jr., J.S.C.  In addition to his general practice, Doug serves as the Public Defender for Roxbury Township Municipal Court as well as the backup Public Defender for Mt. Olive and Mount Arlington/Wharton Joint Municipal Courts.

Brad has performed as the lead construction attorney for some of N.J.’s most prestigious law firms and has also served as in-house counsel for a busy general contractor. His encyclopedic knowledge of N.J.’s construction laws and changing regulations, as well as his reputation as a powerful litigator, has led him to be the guest lecturer at construction conferences and seminars. His high-profile cases have sometimes broken new ground in construction law. Brad is also a member of the Marlton Environmental Commission.

Brothers Become Partners

“We always talked about creating our own law firm, but found ourselves in different parts of New Jersey and Brad was, for the most part, associated with large law firms,” explains the younger brother, Doug. “At the end of 2016, Brad decided to leave the big firm setting and suggested we become partners. Technology had advanced to the point our North/South New Jersey locations made sense so we opened Sclar & Sclar, LLC in January of 2017.”

The two brothers may have learned some key skills in their earlier years.

“We both set our sights on law during college,” explains Doug. “I had the extra push of Brad being older and paving the way. Our parents were decidedly in favor of our choice as we both had the gift of arguing with them and each other from a young age, so the choice made sense.”

Working as a lawyer can involve over-time and stress, but their passion for their profession have outweighed those challenges.

“While the work is stressful and there are long hours, there is a sense, most of the time, that you are helping someone in need,” says Doug. “Every once in a while you can really do some good and there are many times we provide pro bono (free) legal services to those in need. It is also satisfying to work through a case or a closing or a contract negotiation from start to conclusion.”

Providing a local service to clients, years of experience and compassion for others are some of the key elements that have driven the Sclars’ success.

“Despite serving all of New Jersey, we take great pride in providing a local practice feel to our clients,” says Doug. “Our diligence, experience and empathy for our clients has served us well. The bulk of our business has been referrals/word of mouth which is a testament to the satisfaction of our clients with the service we have provided.”

For those looking for a lawyer to represent them, no need to look far when you got Sclar & Sclar, LLC.

“Our experience and compassion,” is what sets them apart from other attorneys, says Doug. “We have both been practicing for over 30 years.

“Brad’s background is in construction law, representing anything from contractors to large construction companies and licensed professionals (architects, engineers and the like),” says Doug. “Multi-million-dollar construction claims are met with the same diligence and focus as the smaller cases.

“I have been a general practice attorney my entire career which has allowed me to take on everything from the municipal court ticket/DWI to representing condominium associations to real estate and drafting of wills,” he continues. “The depth and breadth of a case does not deter us from protecting our client’s interest vigorously and seeing it through to the end. We both take pride in our work product and our clients’ satisfaction with our effort and result.”

For more information on Sclar & Sclar, Inc., go to www.sclarandsclar.com.

Succasunna Office: 15 Commerce Blvd.  Suite 310, P.O. Box 44 Succasunna, N.J. 07876; Phone: 973-584-3200; e-mail doug@sclarandsclar.com.

Marlton Office: Five Greentree Centre, Suite 104 525 Rte. 73 North, Marlton, N.J. 08053; Phone:  856-988-8008; e-mail: brad@sclarandsclar.com.

Happy faces, even under their masks, shined brightly alongside giant menorahs in area towns earlier this month when dozens gathered to celebrate Hanukka. 

While COVID 19 prevented the annual community gathering in Mt. Olive this year, other local towns did gather outdoors for public celebrations during the eight-day Jewish festival held Thursday, Dec. 10 through Friday Dec. 18. A lighting was held at 6:30 p.m. in Chester on the first night at Gazebo Park and another lighting followed on Sunday, Dec. 13 at 5 p.m. at Main and Corner Moore streets in Hackettstown.

A winter holiday held since 3621 (140 BCE), Hanukka retells the lesson every year how light defies darkness. Despite all the darkness brought on by the pandemic eight months ago, may the light of the menorah help to brighten the world.

“When the world turns dark, it is our job to illuminate it,” says Rabbi Yaacov Shusterman, spiritual leader at the Chabad Jewish Center of Northwest N.J. Western Region in Flanders.

“Although our actions may seem too small to make a difference, the little good we do adds a lot of brightness to the world,” he tells all those who attended the community Hanukka celebrations this year.  “However, we have to remember that wherever we are in life, we have not arrived yet. There is a whole line of lamps waiting for us to light. And arriving is not what counts. The main thing is that we are moving on the right path and upwards!

“May the lights of the menorah illuminate the world and our surroundings, and may the collective lights of all our menorahs bring an end to this darkness forever,” he says. “Happy Hanukka.”  

Hanukka celebrates miracles of when of the small Jewish army- the Maccabees- defeated the Syrian-Greek army; when it overcame obstacles and chased the Greeks out of Jerusalem, declared independence and recaptured the Holy Temple. The greatest miracle was when the jug of oil that the Maccabees found that was intended to light the six-foot menorah for just one night, lasted for eight days.

Area Celebrations Brighten Dark Times

With state mandates that have restricted indoor gatherings to less than 10 people, some may agree that it is a miracle that any celebrations could be had this year. The Chabad Jewish Center of Northwest N.J. in Flanders made that happen in some surrounding towns. 

“In Chester we had around 50 people; in Hackettstown 20 people,” says Shusterman. “The age group varied, we had children younger couples and all the couples at each.”

Shusterman typically invites a local dignitary to light the shamash, or center candle, and help lead the prayers.

“In Chester, the mayor of the borough and the mayor of the township were there,” says Shusterman. “The councilman and women were there; the first responders and the fire department were there.

“In Chester, Dr Larry Weinstein, a local doctor from Chester did the prayers,” he says.

“In Hackettstown, the dignitaries were not able to join us this year, unfortunately.”

In years past, the Chabad has hosted community Hanukka celebrations with festivities both inside and out. This year, gatherings were all held outside with strict guidelines, enforcing masks and social distancing.

“Everyone gathered in their own little group, families by family and we stayed apart from each other,” says Shusterman. “We have to make sure that we all wore masks and social distanced.”

Despite the restrictions, those who attended kept their holiday spirits high, enjoying the music, donuts, dreidels, Hanukka gelt and lights.

Shusterman describes the mood as “very cheerful and festive.

“People were so happy to come out,” says Shusterman. “It was such a beautiful, positive atmosphere. Everyone had smiles and was upbeat.”

Submitted by Diane Lang, positive living expert, life coach, speaker.

When we take time to reflect, we get a chance to pause. We get to take some time to regroup and think back on the year we just had and analyze it. We can recognize what we have learned and how it changed who we are. We can see what worked and what did not work. How strong and brave we have been. What risks we took and what we could have done differently. 

We can untangle our lives and give the situations and challenges we have been through meaning. 

11 Ways To Reflect On 2020      

What did you learn about yourself? I think for most of us with the pandemic and election of 2020, we can all see how stressful this year was but if you are writing out your reflection then you know you survived and cultivated resiliency. What other things did you learn about yourself?

What do you want your life to look like one year from now? After reflecting on 2020, you can see the things you do not want to deal with anymore, what did not work and make changes to make 2021 different.

Why didn’t your goals from 2020 go as intended? Did confusion and uncertainty take over? Did you get paralyzed by the fear? Did the grief become overwhelming?

What did you love to do in 2020? What cultivated happiness for you? Did you do those things often? If not, why? How could you change that for 2021? 

What habits and beliefs do you have that you need to stop? That are holding you back and keeping you stuck? What unhealthy habits did you do in 2020 that you want to change? 

In what ways did you grow and change in 2020?

Do you have good routines? For many, 2020 eliminated their usual routines. Did you form new ones? Are they working? Routine, consistency, and schedules are must for balance and happiness. 

What am I bored of, that I need to let go off? Social media? Internet/googling? Checking emails? Binging on TV/Netflix? Etc.

What did you find yourself jealous/envious of in 2020? Jealousy and envy are different. Jealousy is fear of losing someone. Envy is noticing the lack of something in your life. Jealousy and Envy are both great teachers.

What frustrations/Challenges came up for you in 2020. Did you work through them? 

Has your definition of success and/or happiness change for you this year? If it did, write out your new definitions.

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